It Is Not Our Circumstances It Is Our Reaction


The nature of life is unexpected challenges. At some point in our life we all face struggles such as health, relationship, work, financial, kids, and much more. Whatever happened in your life right now just know that you are not alone. Regardless of who we are, what we do, what we have or don’t have, at one time or another has something to deal with whether we like it or not. However, these tough times are not what defines us, the way we react to them is more important than the problem itself. We always have a choice of how we are going to respond to what life throws us. Tomorrow is another day and as long as we live we need to look within ourselves and to realize that we have the power to change our circumstances.

I’m pretty sure we all have heard a statement saying “life is 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react to it”. I definitely agree with this. Attitude is everything. It can be optimistic or pessimistic. It can make us down or cheer us up. We can choose to feel joy or sad about it. It’s our choice. We are responsible for our own attitude and we have the control of it.

I love what Charles R. Swindoll wrote on his book The Grace Awekening about attitude:                                                                                          “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”………………BAM! This is deep and so true!!!!!

We can replace negative events with positive thoughts. For example, if you get Bell’s Palsy, be grateful that it will be only temporary. And you can look at it as a warning to take care of yourself more. If you are stress at work, be grateful that you have a job, or you can look at it as a sign to find another job. You never know what the future hold for you if you just stay in the place where you are at right now but not being peace with it. If your kids are a little challenging, be grateful that you are a parent. There are a lot of couple out there longing to have kids. And the list can go on…. Positive attitude can completely change our life.

I’m still guilty on this attitude business. Every day is still a process of learning and trying to have a positive attitude on everything in my life. Sometimes it can be really hard specially if I think I tried hard to find the positive outcome of this problem and I just can’t see it. Hahhhaha……. right?! Have you ever felt the same? Well, the way I see it usually because of my ego, emotion, and self-pity still kicks in and dwells within me. But when I’m already calm and focus to The One Who gives me hope, joy, and gratitude, it will always give me self-confidence which helps me shift to a different perspective and lead me to a positive attitude. It can take a minute, an hour, a day, 3 days or more to get there from whatever struggle I face but I always determined to be in control of how I react to my problem because I know HE gave me an opportunity to grow in my knowledge and trust in Him.                                                                                                     “Anything under God’s control is never out of control”  Charles R. Swindoll


Sometimes we can learn from people around us. We can use their struggles to strengthen us. Not that we are happy that they’re facing some struggles but we can see it as no matter what we are going through in life, other people just like us have gone through the same or even worse. And when we can pray for others while we ourselves in the midst of struggle, we will have the peace to help us have a grateful attitude, and from that it will promote healing.

God will use every one of our difficult circumstances to mold us into His perfect design. Once we have grasped this, we can thank God for our struggles, for the privilege of exercising, and to discover its joy. We just need to do the best in our part, surrender in Him, and let Him do the rest. I love how Christine Caine put it in the statement: “Our job is to take care of the possible, and trust God with the impossible”. 

Each of us always have something to be thankful for. And that is a blessing.

Have a great week loves!!!